Today I spent the day baking. Not because it is the Christmas season. No, THAT baking will take place next week. Today I spent the day laboring in my kitchen because I have two friends who live about 400 miles away who need a little nudge to let them know that someone over here adores them immensely. People need that sometimes. They need the reminder that they are loved and thought of. Because we live so far apart, I turned to my kitchen for inspiration. What better way to tell someone you think the world of them than to mail them a cake or cupcakes?
Cooking and baking for people all around is a generous and sweet gesture, particularly for people who have experienced life-changing events. Someone you know just had a baby? Make them a big pan of lasagna (or any other large dish that freezes beautifully and makes great leftovers) and hand deliver it with a teddy bear. A friend just lost family member? Cake and a HUGE pot of spaghetti. In times like that, the last thing a person wants to do is think about what to make for dinner.
Having friends feed you and take care of you in an inadvertently nurturing way is a great thing. It might not be appreciated much during the moment, (and that’s OK) but these people will look back on this and remember that you are there for them. And that’s what everybody wants a good friend to know, right? We’re here for them to the best of our abilities…even in times where the circumstances are a little hard for us to relate to and a little awkward to talk about. Make them some food.
One of my recent favorite food gifts was to a friend who is experiencing a bit of a dry spell in the love department. To show my sympathy for such an atrocious state of being, I mailed her a box of rich chocolate cupcakes. I sent her a card with the cupcakes expressing my regret at her becoming “persona non nookie” of her town. We started joking and the cupcakes slowly started being called the non nookie cupcakes. I love this. When we think of sending sympathy gifts, our minds immediately turn to death in the family and such. Why not send a non nookie food gift? It’s my invention people and it’s a terrific idea! I should look into nailing down a day on the calendar and calling it Sympathy for All Persons Suffering Non Nookie Day or SAPSNN Day. Ok, it needs work, but there aren’t many people out there who can’t say that at some time or another the lack of physical love would be nice to forget in a box of gooey chocolate baked goods.
A picture of the very first non nookie cupcake. Picture courtesy of the persona non nookie to whom they were gifted.
Don’t be afraid to mail baked goods to far-away friends. Here is a great how-to article on packaging and mailing a cake, but it would work equally well with cupcakes, pies, or cookies. And also, I personally never get anything interesting in the mail. A box of cookies would be a great break-up in the horrific routine of fliers and ads for car dealerships. If you want to mail something other than baked goods, I’d either forget about that idea or get some dry ice and send that stuff in a deep freeze.
We all eat. Most of us enjoy eating. It’s better than sending a basket of soaps.












